chilsNo doubt, it is no less than a roller coaster ride to make parenting successful. Sometimes, you enjoy your little child and at other times, you are just so confused about your child’s particular behaviour. The growth of children is not at all an even ride to a better maturity. Many experts refer this as the period of ‘equilibrium’ and ‘disequilibrium. Equilibrium can be the stage when your child is in a stable state of mind while disequilibrium refers to more challenging behaviour.
Difference between equilibrium and disequilibrium
The state of equilibrium refers to the time when the children are smooth, calm and stable. They tend to practice skills that they have already learnt and are at peace with their own self and world. It is a period of growth with more stability and consolidated behaviour. In such a stage, parenting is not so difficult and they are easy to live with.
On the other hand, disequilibrium is the state of growth when the child is unsettled and uneven. Children are very anxious, moody and less confident. This is a period of behaviour break down and struggle, as it is the quick time of new development and growth.
Stages of development
* 18 months to 4 years- The growth of 18 months is full of tantrums i.e. disequilibrium. However, the child tends to become a little calmer when he reaches the age of 2. The development of children continues to cycle about in every 6 months. By the time, they reach 3, they are more stable and enters into the state of equilibrium. They become easygoing and more cooperative. At 4, they become physically and emotionally out of bounds.
* 5 to 8 years- A five-year-old child’s growth is certainly a joyful to play and live with. They are more cheerful, positive and kind of optimistic too. However, disequilibrium starts when they reach, as they become disobeying and bit negative too. While at the age of 7, they tend to become fearful, critical and moody. They develop a tendency to cry easily and think that others do not like them. This stage becomes difficult for the parents to handle their children. at 8, their behaviour again changes and they become energetic and joyful.
* 9-17 years- Children’s growth in their ninth year develops the feeling of worry and anxiety. Since they become much more demanding than before, this stages reach to the level of disequilibrium. Their behaviour becomes predictable and comfortable when they turn 10. Further, children are more negative, shy, unhappy with them, less confident and more oppositional in the ages of 11, 13, 15 and 17. However, the opposite is seen in the ages of 12, 14 and 16 when they are in equilibrium. They are likeable, energetic and very confident of what they are.